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Expectations of marriage

18 September 2015 / 13:09:47  GRReporter
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Marriage and commitment are a serious topic, one always can talk about it and there is always something to say about it. Each of us has quite different expectations and perceptions regarding commitment or marriage. One of the most important factors for a successful and happy relationship or marriage is precisely how the partner meets one’s expectations.

Today's article is about the expectations we have for marriage and serious relationships that are actually an unofficial marriage. There are many stereotypes of what the man should be, what the woman must be; of the values of women and men when they gather in marriage and family. The fact is that sometimes people are truly happy in relationships that go beyond these stereotypes. And not only because we are living in modern times. Each of us has different needs that play a leading role in forming our expectations. There are women who hate their husband being constantly around. Others get sick if they do not call him at least 10 times a day and do not spend all their free time together. There are men who love to talk with their wives for hours, in spite of all the claims that men do not like doing that. There are men who do not want to feel powerful and prefer their wife to take on most of the burden so that they can live quietly in her shadow. In other words, there are different people with different expectations for their intimate relationships and marriage.

In the personal horoscope the tenth house (or the so-called Medium Coeli) is generllay related to aspirations in life, the highest place one wants to get to, the success that one seeks and the way to achieve it. In short, it is associated with the expectations for one’s realization as an individual, the reputation achieved and with the way in which one is visible in society. This applies to every area of ​​life.

Since the state of the seventh house determines the marriage and relationships with marital status, we must count the tenth house from the seventh to understand the expectations that one has and what one wants to get, entering into marriage. With this simple step, we come to the fourth original house in the horoscope. The sign where the ruling planet falls and the planets that are in it "tell" about one’s instinctive, subconscious expectations, about what one really needs to live through, not what people think that they want.

The fourth house in the horoscope symbolizes the home, residence, parents, inner comfort and emotional stability, the conditions under which one relaxes and feels most comfortable. To have a home, family, partner to replace one's parents to some extent - in fact this is the most important factor that encourages people to marry and be in a serious relationship. The question is what kind of home and family one wants to create. Elderlypeople say that children repeat to some extent the marriage of their parents. This makes perfect sense, and I hope you understand why. Upbringing and family conditions in early childhood set what one "chooses" to have in terms of personal family and marriage.

Now I will write the information that we derive from the zodiacal sign where the fourth house in the horoscope falls. The reading is made from the Ascendant. For full details, you can combine it with the fourth house counted from the Moon sign.

Ascendant in Aries
The fourth house falls in Cancer and is ruled by the Moon. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, your expectations are entirely based on the desire to have a home and family, to create a home. You expect your partner to reproduce exactly what you had in your childhood and ‘replicate’ one of your parents, basically, your mother no matter whether you are male or female. In marriage, you want to be cared for, have a close spiritual person with whom you are connected through many shared memories and emotions. You look for marriage that is filled with regular changes and plenty of all possible emotions.

Ascendant in Taurus
The fourth house falls in Leo and is ruled by the Sun. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to find a glamorous and opulent life, be happy, have a lot of fun, be charged with vitality and energy, be surrounded by a lot of love at home and in your family and be at the ‘centre’ for all. You expect to obtain the best for yourself, receive much attention from others through your marriage, and be a standard for the ideal relationship. Having children is one of your first priorities upon entering into a marriage or serious relationship.

Ascendant in Gemini
The fourth house falls in Virgo and is ruled by Mercury When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to build an orderly, peaceful and "pure" life in every sense. You do not look for, and expect, passions and emotions, you prefer cool, distant, but responsible relations. You expect the marriage and the serious relationship to make improvements in your life, to be primarily useful for your everyday life. You look for a healthy marriage, to maintain reasonable relations at home where everyone performs his or her own duties and fulfils his or her responsibilities as if he or she is at work.

Ascendant in Cancer
The fourth house falls in Libra and is ruled by Venus. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to find your mate in the literal sense of the word, to have a partner who will always, always, always be right next to you, in everything, without separations so that you can create a personal world in which both of you so perfectly complement and compensate each other that you do not need other people for anything. You expect to receive everything that is related to human relationships, but only from one person. You look for a marriage that features refinement, good manners, a good social position.

Ascendant in Leo
The fourth house falls in Scorpio and is ruled by Mars and Pluto. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to create extremely deep relationships, of the type "until death do us part", to be bound so strongly and firmly that it is forever. You expect each of you to give the other everything that he or she has, to merge to become one. You look for a marriage and relationships that profoundly change your life, make you a different person, that are full of strong passions, many sexual experiences and things that remain hidden behind the walls of your home.

Ascendant in Virgo
The fourth house falls in Sagittarius and is ruled by Jupiter. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to find a variety of new worlds, travel together, live in different places, explore the world, obtain knowledge from, and due to, the relationship, and to charge yourself with enthusiasm, faith and optimism. You look for a marriage in which there is freedom, trust, a spiritual relationship, your partner is generous, does not put limitations on you and accepts you as you are, not attempting to change you. You expect the person with whom you will make your home to be something like a spiritual teacher who has an enviable dose of wisdom and natural intelligence.

Ascendant in Libra
The fourth house falls in Taurus and is ruled by Saturn. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to find stability, durability, to live in traditional and more conservative conditions but also help to achieve a better social status, support your career and professional development, your achievements and success. You look for a marriage in which to strengthen your personal authority, be respected and heard, to be the one who has the most power and whose decisions are a binding law for the rest of the family.

Ascendant in Scorpio
The fourth house falls in Aquarius and us ruled by Saturn and Uranus. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to have maximum freedom, to be yourself and the other to accept all your quirks, hobbies, interests, be your best friend who willingly accepts all your nonstandard ideas and wants to share them with you at that. You look for a marriage that is different and beyond the rules, in which you can feel totally free without worrying about rules and norms, and which is full of interesting and funny things, not of boredom and routine.

Ascendant in Sagittarius
The fourth house falls in Pisces and is ruled by Jupiter and Neptune. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to find perfection (whatever you mean by that). But in general, you want a relationship and marriage that does not create any problems and concerns, allows you to find and obtain everything you look for, have the perfect partner who takes from your shoulders everything that has disturbed and troubled you. You look for a marriage that allows you to rest, to relax after a hard day and escape from life's difficulties.

Ascendant in Capricorn
The fourth house falls in Aries and is ruled by Mars. When you enter into serious relationships and marriage, you expect to live in conditions of competition, rivalry and struggle to help you build strong character and determination, be independent individuals and able to dominate and define all conditions. You look for a marriage that is never smooth, routine and boring. You want situations that allow you to prove yourself constantly. As strange as it may sound, a quiet marriage or serious relationship would instead be boring and tiring for you.

Ascendant in Aquarius
The fourth house falls in Taurus and is ruled by Venus. When you enter into serious relationships and a marriage, you expect to have primarily a financial and material comfort, conditions to accumulate money, wealth, to possess a variety of items and objects that will allow you to set up a comfortable and contented material life. You look for a marriage with fairly good material conditions, or which at least can help you ensure yourself a wealthy well-being with property and finances to be able to enjoy the "sweet life" - good things, a beautiful and comfortable home, plenty of food and fun.

Ascendant in Pisces
The fourth house falls in Gemini and is ruled by Mercury. When you enter into serious relationships and a marriage, you expect to have a varied life full of curious things, continuous movement, communication, to find a partner to share with him or her a variety of interests, develop intellectually together and awaken mutual curiosity. You look for a marriage in which you can constantly communicate, always have something to discuss and talk about, exchange information, a marriage that does not block your aspirations for continuous change and your desire to frequently change your surroundings and the people around you.

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